so the odds are stacked against them........read on.......
Kevin and I were told, after 3 miscarriages, that both of us had a
balanced translocation. I have a balanced translocation with
my 3 & 5
chromosome. Kevin has a balanced translocation of his 6 &
10 chromosome.
How we got together? By the grace of God! They told
us that we would
have a better chance of playing the lottery. Before Lanae and
after the
miscarriages, they told us that we were able to have a child - it just
depended on how many miscarriages we would be willing to go through.
They never made it clear that we could possibly have a disabled child.
So we were naive and decided that we would go through as many as were
needed. We got pregnant with Lanae and had a very normal pregnancy.
I
did not have any tests done - I planned and did have her at home.
It was
great (painful though!). There were no doctors to whisk her off
to test
her and that was nice also. We did find out about a week later
that she
had the 5p- syndrome. It was a shock needless to say. Our
decision to
have children might have been altered if things were made clear to
us and
I am very glad things worked out the way they did.
We did have another child - 11 month old Jacob - who is perfectly normal.
I felt that birth control was not the way to go with me and I
decided to
go off the pill and see what happens. A month later I was pregnant.
At
20 weeks we got a level 2 ultrasound and everything looked good.
I had
him on November 11, 1998. Perfectly normal - a perfect miracle.
We
really stepped out on faith with this one and it turned out.
Although he
is normal we decided that the risk was not worth taking again and made
the decision to not have anymore children. My husband and I are
at such
high risk! He had a vasectomy done this past year and now we
have peace
about the child thing. Plus, our hands are full with a 13 year
old, 3
year old and now an 11 month old.
I wouldn't change anything that happened with our child bearing
decisions. We love them all and are proud of them. I am
glad that I
finally don't have that worry at the end of each month - 'WHAT
IF I'M
PREGNANT KEVIN??????!!
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